We are currently halfway out of lockdown, where we are still experiencing bouts of uncertainties.The world is in an uproar with the Black Lives Matters Campaign as we in Britain celebrate 71 years of the Windrush settlers on 22nd June 2020.Alongside all of these historic memorabilia’s, today we are now seeing another event where men are celebrated around the world for being ‘Fathers’.Biologically a Father is a male genetically responsible for the reproduction of another human being. However there is more to being a father when you become a ‘Dad’!A Dad’s role is more than being the genetic donor it carries the voyage of an intimate relationship.However, during the last 60 years, men have taken a more shared role in raising children, by being present at the birth, stay at home dads and even single parent dads.These interactive alliances have demonstrated that there is more to men than providing financial and physical attributes, now they are viewed as adding more depth to their children – demonstrating a new dimension to ‘care-giver’.The days when the father only had an authorial role to inflict judgement, punishment are but ebbed away.Paternal functions now are deeply rooted into the well-being of a child’s mental, emotional, spiritual upbringing in a more empathic way.These attributes contributes to a child’s future in several ways.Here we see the characters of 3 fathers and the outcome of their children
Mordecai (The book of Esther)A Jewish man exiled in Persia and ruled by King Ahasuerus. Under this oppression he saw the need to adopt his younger female cousin Esther and raise her as his daughter.Not much is mentioned about his family but it is the responsibility he takes on as her father that underpins the future of not only Esther a young girl but a nation.Esther was not brought into the family as a slave, which would have been the tradition at the time; this adopted father treated her as his own. Esther 2:7Here his wisdom, dedication and commitment to God demonstrated how his obedience to God’s interventions saved Esther and the Jewish nation.
What impact do you have on children you have raised that are not biologically yours?Haman (The book of Esther)An Iranian, married with 10 children was the Principle Minister in Persia during the reign of King Ahasuerus.
Despite his wealth and affluence, he was a racist and a bigot who sort to commit genocide on race of people.His hate was so entrenched he sort advice from his many advisors how best to have this race eradicated.Haman was so fixated on Mordecai and the Jews it end up costing him his life and that of his entire family.What are you fixated on that has a negative impact on your children’s well-being?David
He has 66 chapters in the Bible in which he’s referenced and became Israel’s most revered King.As his story goes, he was shepherd, who fought a giant, a mighty warrior, became King, committed murder and wrote songs. But it’s his parental skills I wish to draw on.He was raised by a man who rejected him, was treated differently to his older brothers and spent quite a considerable amount of time on his own writing and play music.The Book of Psalms bears reference to his talent.However his upbringing had a huge impact on his mental well-being in that this mighty warrior lacked parental skills to deal with the incestual rape between his children.This led to a homicide, a rebellion and a recluse.What are you not addressing that may cause permanent fractures with your children?These 3 fathers reveal that they possess the traits of the modern man today susceptible to same choices fathers made years ago -addiction, affection, courage, detachment, empathy, hate, love, nurture, obedience, racism, rage, responsibilities, strength, values, wisdom etc.Many of these traits are attributes that are attainable while others need addressing and abdicating.Here lies a heavy accountability for fathers to ensure children are equipped with the tools to pass onto the next generation.As the father determines the sex of the child so too does he play a strong function on how the psychological, social and mental development of his child is exhibited.
Our heavenly Father has furnished us with a purpose to being the difference He created us to be.Likewise, fathers are to cultivate the difference in a child’s life, as they will be the product of a father’s input, albeit a positive or negative one.
“What counts in life is not the mere fact that we have lived. It is what difference we have made to the lives of others that will determine the significance of the life we lead.” Nelson Mandela
Men, undeniably deserves to be acknowledged and applauded for this role as a father, one that is of a great and intriguing position.God knew that He could delegate this assignment to a father to preserve as He gave them pointers on how to fulfil this mission.6 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts.7 Impress them on your children.Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6:6-9 NIVDeveloping and raising children throughout time has always been a huge undertaking.Happy Father’s Day Daily!Is today’s society seeing the evolution of the new dad?Alongside these newly identifiable traits lay the responsibility for the well-being of a child’s future